When your Frog turns out to be ... a frog

Anyone who knows me knows that I have been part of the community of matrimony for about 10 years now, although I lived on the outskirts 2 years prior, so this post may not make any sense for me to write about...BUT.....


It feels like I see so many people "fall in" of love, just to "fall out" again. Well, I'm here to say that sorry, ladies, that frog is just a frog. You may very well see him as a handsome prince when the butterflies are still in your stomach, but you know what? As soon as you digest those little bastards, you see him for what he is, warts and all.

What's so wrong about loving a frog? I mean, sure, they might be green and slimy, but hell, as long as he keeps the flies away, who's to complain? What I'm trying to say here is this:

Its not all flowers and rainbows and unicorn farts. Its compromise and tenderness and a willingness to let another person make mistakes, and love them for it. What's love? Oh yeah, that gooey feeling in your stomach, similar to the sinking feeling you get when you walk down the stairs and think it was the last step. The warm burning sensation you get in your.... well, you get it. I mean, yeah, but no. That's lust, buttercup. Love is not throwing a fit when your significant other wrecks the car. Love is making dinner without complaint, even though it's not your turn, because your wife is having an emotional breakdown due to stress and PMS (thanks, Boo!). Love is giving up the remote and listening to the awful squelching noises that your partner calls "signing", it's letting them pick the new color of paint for the office walls, and calling at just to say hi at lunch.


We all have tendencies to be selfish, hell, its evolution. But to promise your heart to someone and take it back because you "fell out of love", that's just downright mean. Love is hard work, man. Its a lot of give and take, and every once in a while we all feel that we give more than take, but thats our selfishness again..

I guess all I'm throwing out there is that there is no such thing as a prince, but if you find the right frog for you, you keep him.

Dude, you're not alone.

So for anyone who knows me, they know that I prefer not to talk about any bodily functions.

ANY.

Along with denying I have any functions I also deny they affect me. BUT...... here goes.


I am a freak.
Once a month I turn into a snot-gurgling, whiny troll that hides in dark places and cries over the silliest things. Like spots in the carpet, my pants not reaching my ankle bones, and my husband thinking I'm crazy, even-though-I'm-acting-crazy-but-its-not-his-place-and-stop-looking-at-me-why-won't-you-just-hug-me-god-dammit-not-like-that-a-real-hug-fine-I-don't-want-your-pity-hugs-why-are-you-walking-away, and sometimes even the shape of my eyebrows.

But you know what? I'm not alone. Not even close, it is estimated that 10% of women suffer from PMDD, or Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (here is a link, I care not to essplain: http://www.webmd.com/women/pms/premenstrual-dysphoric-disorder )

Most likely if you came across this article, you just came out of a crazed "OMG this is it, I finally lost it and pushed all of my loved ones away" episode, and are frantically searching the inter-webs for advice (because that helps). Well, I can't help with the PTMSG (Post Traumatic Mood Swing Guilt - totally made that up, BTW), I can tell you that you're not alone.

So hang in there, sister, be aware that this too shall pass (for about 29 days) and know that knowledge is power.


Peace,
Sarindipity.

I'm baaaaaack!!

Well hell. I'm back, and so much has changed I don't know where to begin. So I won't... Just know that I have a lot of new things to post, and they will be coming soon.

Sorry I was gone so long. I'd like to promise that I'll never leave again, but out of all the things I may be, a liar is never one of them.


Peace.
Sarindipity

I fell off the earth

                And into a giant gaping hole full of homework. Who knew going back to school could be so hectic? A quick update, I missed my first week, but was ahead of the call and pulling an 88% in one class and a 97% in the other, a dog nipped my Ping-Ping's beautiful princess face, and I found I have an uncontrollable hatred of husky's. The Boo (aka husband) went to Mexico, came back, left again, and I'm finding myself okay with that, which is either good or bad... I'm not sure yet.
 I've lost another 4 lbs. since my last post, started eating more vegetarian (see below...Party-In-Your-Mouth Burgers) and fell of the Insanity workout band-wagon. Its an excellent program, I'm just not there, I was eating back my exercise calories plus 500.. Gotta get back to it! Enjoy the recipe ya'll!

PIYM Burgers

Ingredientes:

2 tablespoons vegetable oil

1 stalk celery, chopped

1 onion, finely chopped                                 

1 clove garlic, minced                

1 15-oz. can black beans, rinsed and drained

1 large egg, lightly beaten

1 tablespoon cumin

1/2 cup plain bread crumbs

Salt and pepper 

  

 

 

Directiones:

 

1. 1. Preheat oven to 375°F. Line a large, rimmed baking sheet with foil; grease lightly.
2. 2. Warm oil in a large skillet over medium-high heat. Add celery and onion and cook, stirring often, until softened, 3 to 5 minutes. Add garlic and sauté 1 minute longer.
3. 3. Pour beans into a large bowl and use a fork or potato masher to mash into a thick paste. Scrape vegetables from skillet into bowl. Stir in egg, cumin and bread crumbs. Season with salt and pepper. Use your fingers to form into 4 patties (do not overmix). Place patties on baking sheet and bake until firm and set, about 10 minutes on each side. Serve on whole-grain buns with lettuce, tomato and sliced red onion, if desired.             

Manga, and enjoy!

Forgivness is divine.

    Have you ever forgave someone and saw the relief on their face? Its a wonderful feeling, I'll give you that, but how hard is it to do? When you really think about it, its truly not that difficult. It might seem like it is, but open your heart and mind and that'll all fade. The past is done, and now we can move on in our lives and positively effect the future by trusting that forgiveness will lead to learning from our mistakes. Technically we only live in the now, not the past or the future, because the only moment we can actually fully experience is right now. Huh.. I mean now. No, wait! Now...
     But what about forgiving yourself? Hmm.. that's a little tougher, because, we are, as you know, living with us every. stinking. day. We like to beat ourselves up, call ourselves names, and tear ourselves down. But why? We can forgive others, why not forgive you? I mean me, us, we. You know, US. We are a people, a whole unit living together as a species, God made us one and all, equal. We are told to forgive people and love them, treat them kindly and do not judge. Well, I say, that goes for you too, buddy. Love yourself, forgive yourself, give yourself time to grow and learn. Give that guilt and sorrow up, tell yourself its a new day, live in the now, and accept that you are human. There is no use going over the past, you'll only lose your future.
   Of course, the more serious the crime the harder to forgive. Ate the last doughnut? Thats 20 minutes of trying to forgive yourself. Ran over your neighbors cat? Thats a bit longer. But time will heal all wounds, and this is just a tiny piece of your whole life. Live in the now. And remember, God made you as you are, to fail, to learn and to grow.

Sending you all a big hug,
Sarindipity


P.S. If you could forgive me, I can't get my pictures to post!

Cociane Cupcakes for your New Years Resolution

      No, I'm not going to give you a recipie, crazy. Instead, something much more interesting....and legal. Motivation for that weightloss goal. We all have one, weather its 5 or 50 pounds, everyone wants to lose weight, and rightfully so! We are, as you know, a nation of tubby lard-o's. So tubby, get ready to sink your teeth into some thought provoking stuff, sugar.

      Sugar is derived from natural sources (usually) mostly sugar cane or beets. The sugar is then stripped out of the glucose, processed and we are left with the sweet stuff. So we take a perfectly good plant, mess with it and make an addicting white powder. Just like cocaine. Huh. Who knew?

      Food companies, thats who. We all know you must eat to survive, but what to eat? The goal is food with low calories, high nutrition, just like Twinkies! Oh, wait. Food companies want you to buy their food, so how do we do that? Add cocaine of course! Crap, I meant sugar....so hard to tell the difference. These companies want you to buy their product, duh, so they add sugar to EVERYTHING. Pasta, sauces, bread, salad dressings, vegetable juice, chewing gum, bacon, peanut butter, ketchup, crackers, pickles, lip gloss. Addiction is key, teach a man to fish, he eats for a lifetime, but get the man addicted to fish and open a market, and you'll make some money.

       Not only do they stick the crap in all thier products, they deviously re-name it. High fructose corn syrup, glucose, dextrose, galactose, maltose, maltodextrin. The list goes on, close to 100 different ways to say cocaine.. um, sugar.

        This is serious stuff, when you eat sugar, you get little "happy" chemicals sent to your brain and once those deminish your brain asks for more. So we give our bodies more, sometimes without even realizing thats whats going on. And it. is. in. everything. We know that drugs are addictive, but we feel a little silly saying we are addicted to sugar. Well, I'll be the first.
 I, Sarindipity, am addicted to sugar (Hi Sarindipity!)


 So instead of your every year New Year resolution, resolve to be sugar-free. Read your labels, love your life and have an excellent 2013.

Dont you dare take down that tree!

Oh yes, you thought it was over, but you were so wrong. Christmas gets lost in all of the commercialism of our world today, so much that you'd think it was sponsored by "big industry". Well, my friends, if your are of the Christian persuasion, think again. All other religions may freely walk away at any time. Or don't. Really, the choice is up to you.
    Christmas season is actually now officially here, the celebration is for the birth of this really cool guy named Jesus, they wrote whole book about him and everything. Christmas officially starts on the 24th and traditionally would not be decorated for until noon of that day, however Walmart would have you believe that you store the Thanksgiving turkey under the damn thing until time to eat. The Christmas holiday is the celebration of the birth of Jesus that begins by starting on the day he was born and ending on the Twelfth Night, or Epiphany. This happens on the 7th, yep, the tree stays till after New Years.
 Epiphany is the ending day of Christmas marking the arrival of the Wise Men. However, originally Epiphany celebrated four different events. The first is the Baptism of the Lord,  second, Jesus' first miracle (and my personal favourite) water into wine at the wedding in Cana, the Nativity of Christ and the visitation of the Wise Men. Us westerners like to cut to the chase and  it shorten it up a bit.
 So before you throw the tree to the curb and take down all the lights, maybe give a second thought to why we celebrate, and let the spirit linger a little longer.


This New Year have some wine, share some love and enjoy the promise of the good things to come. Just DO NOT light the sparklers next to the tree!